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It’s a pretty strange experience. We get into a comfortable 9 to 5 routine in the working class society, not giving it a second thought.  Its just what everybody does….we work for a living.  Then you suddenly find yourself in the mist of motherhood and everything changes.  This tiny little bundle of joy wants YOU….morning, noon, and night. You are the one he wants feeding him, holding him and rocking him to sleep.  Welcome to your new life. Yes, you thought you prepared for it over the last nine months but now this little person is here, and reality sinks in.

That’s how I felt three years ago when my daughter was born.  I was so used to working everyday, living my own life and doing my own thing.  Now I am home with someone dependent on me to take care of her.  I have thought about going back to work, or to school to finish my degree, and actually managed to study for two years at community college, but when my son was born last year it started to become more of a challenge. Some people may think being a stay home mother is taking the lazy way out.  They vision us sitting home watching soap operas and maybe….just maybe, getting a little housecleaning done. Some actual mothers out there may think they made the wrong choice and feel they aren’t useful in society anymore.  They fear a nervous breakdown when the kids are screaming, the house is a disaster and dread the thought of someone ringing the doorbell at any moment!

I have felt many times that you need a college degree or a profession to be somebody in today’s society, but what I have discovered is that even though I don’t have a typical career like most working individuals, I am responsible for two human lives that will need to succeed on their own someday.  A stay at home mother is not someone who is just  “watching the kids,”  we are several important people molded into one.

A Stay At Home Mother Really Is…

A NURSE: How my heart breaks when I see my little ones crying over a “boo boo!”  Sometimes it may be a little scrape or it may be as big as a broken bone. It may even be an unexpected high fever and a night of coughing and Tylenol, but rest assured your sick little angels will feel  much better knowing that mommy is taking care of them!  Luckily I haven’t had the opportunity to deal with any major catastrophes….yet, but I know they may burst upon me at any given moment.  I will, of course prepare myself for the worst…shall the worst ever come (I hope not!) But all mothers will be there to help their babies through these painful moments.

A TEACHER: It amazes me how much children learn before they are even old enough to attend school.  We teach them how to clap,  sing “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star,” brush their hair, tie their shoes, and even dress themselves.  Of course we can’t forget the ever loving job of potty training!  Kids love to learn and it builds their self esteem when they finally “figured it out!” Of course it makes me proud to know that I taught them how to do it.

A DISCIPLINARIAN: This is one of the hardest things I’ve had to learn as a new mother. In this crazy world, children need to be directed down the right path. If we are not there to show them right from wrong, they will figure it out themselves…the hard way. Parents these days are becoming more afraid to discipline and instead, choosing to be their “friend” rather than a parent.  If you keep giving him what he wants he is going to expect you to give in every time. Your child knows he will get his way, and he will end up losing his respect for you.  Truth be told, children need, and actually WANT discipline!  They may hate it now but trust me, your kids will thank you for it in the future!

A LEADER: This should pretty much  go hand in hand with disciplinarian, but I will say that being a leader for your children is the most rewarding “task” you will ever have in your full time mothering career. Its our job to guide them into adulthood and let become who you molded them to be.  I can’t wait to see my children choose their career path, or get married and have children of their own.  Knowing they made the right decisions in their life because of how we raised them is an awesome feeling. Sure, they will make their mistakes, but learning from those mistakes with a good heart and self confidence will take them far.

In Conclusion…

Kids love the idea of spending time with mommy, and the thought of someone else raising my children just so I can have a job doesn’t feel right to me.  They are my kids and it is my responsibility to make sure they are getting the best out of life.  I love knowing that as a stay home mom, can provide everything they need from me.

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